Why Forgiveness Is A Bi-Fold Approach?
People believe that forgiveness is an act of kindness that straightaway dwells from the heart. But we do not know that there is much to the act of forgiveness that only kindness. Let us start understanding the approach toward forgiveness by learning the basics- what is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is the understanding of a person’s nature, causes, hurt and pain. When we forgive someone we cannot do it by just saying ‘its fine’ or ‘no problem’. It has to come with a sense of compassion towards them. You have to move beyond what is in front of your eyes to what lies in the heart of the one that has hurt you. When a child comes crying to you, you instantly want to know the reason for his suffering. At the same time, if the child comes to you crying and starts hitting you, you call him insane! In both the cases, the child has suffered incessantly over something that makes him behave in that way but our behavior is proportionate to his reaction only.
To answer what is forgiveness, I can sum it up as- forgiveness is an act of consciousness when we accept the wrongdoings of the other as their mistakes and let go of any hard feelings towards them by understanding the cause of their behavior. Forgiveness is generated through empathy, love, and trust towards the other person. We all seek forgiveness but often do not want to give it away easily.
There are very popular stories in various mythologies that signify that often the best revenge on someone is not to hurt them back but to forgive them. This leads them to get filled up with guilt and release while makes ourselves free of the burden of anger, hate, and negativity. We make ourselves to move towards a better life while they keep drowning themselves with guilt.
However, it is not really easy to be forgiving. It takes a big heart, swarms of empathy and oceans of understanding to forgive the one who has hurt you.
Having discussed ‘what is forgiveness’ we need to learn the science that deals with the subject to make it a bi-fold approach.
According to Mindvalley, the electrical activity of our brain produces 5 kinds of frequencies. These are called brain waves. They are ranked as under:
Gamma (above 40 Hz) — The Insight Wave
Beta (14 – 40 Hz) — The Waking Consciousness and Reason Wave
Alpha (7.5 – 14 Hz) — The Deep Relaxation Wave
Theta (4 – 7.5 Hz) — The Meditation and Sleeping Wave
Delta (.5 – 4 Hz) — The Deep Sleep Wave
You must be wondering what is the frequency and brainwaves all about. We would like to simplify it for you. The brainwaves indicate the emotions and different types of thinking of the people. Those who have high-frequency brainwaves signify high levels of alertness and stress. At the same time, the lower frequency brain waves indicate creativity, calmness, and intuitive abilities.
Meditation, calm thoughts and our actions towards the behavior of other persons towards us indicate the low or high-frequency waves that are generated through our minds. It is stated that the monks who meditate for years tend to develop a sense of forgiveness and understanding towards all the beings as their brain starts emitting low-frequency waves with time.